MARRIAGE
Learn the Common Myths About Marriage
Myth: I can make my spouse happy and s/he can make me happy.
Correction: I am responsible for my own happiness.
Myth: My partner should do and think the same way I do.
Correction: No two people are identical; It is a positive thing to think and express my own thoughts and feelings.
Myth: Love conquers all.
Correction: Sometimes we fall in love with unhealthy people or relationships.
Myth: Marriage will fix/solve everything in my life and relationship.
Correction: Marriage does not solve problems.
Myth: I can change my partner.
Correction: I can change no one but myself.
Myth: Nobody’s perfect. He/She will outgrow this in time.
Correction: Ignoring "red flags" prior to marriage is dangerous. Usually patterns do not change in time.
Myth: It’s all his or her fault.
Correction: Marriages are relational and comprised of actions back and forth between two people. It is the responsibility of each individual to figure out and take responsibility for their part in their interactions with spouse.
Myth: I need to get married because I need a husband/wife to take care of me.
Correction: We are all responsible for our own financial and emotional and relational well-beings and cannot count on relying on others.
Myth: Ignore the little things in marriage do not matter.
Correction: Little things can become big things if not corrected.
